Gay investigative journalist Babatunde ‘Babs’ Okonkwo has come to visit his lesbian best friend Regina ‘Regi’ Abengowe in Lewisham. With mounting pressures back in Nigeria, where homosexuality is illegal and escalating dangers for their partners, Babs and Regi hatch a plan to get married. They hope this ‘cover’ will stop the threatening rumours and allow Babs to expose the inhumane treatment of LGBTQIA+ people in Nigeria, especially in the north where being gay is publishable by death. With the help of Regi’s 89-year-old German Jewish neighbour and the ‘Mr & Mrs’ Board Game they put their plan into action. But storms are gathering in Nigeria. Regi records the acts of violence happening to their friends and Babs’s own brother threatens to betray him. As the wedding approaches, Regi and Babs must choose what they care about the most. how we love is a new play about different types of love. Age Recommendation: 12+ Content Warning: Contains description of homophobic violence, anti-Semitism, the Holocaust, and grief.